I’m sure they didn’t mean to.
You should try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
They were just trying to help.
These phrases can often make it seem like you are the bad guy when it comes to holding people accountable for what they do. More and more it seems like those in power think that good intentions and platform promises are enough, rather than looking at the reality of their actions.
I once had a Drama School Head tell me “but these are really good people” when I called them out for excluding me from their classes due to my disability.
Being a good person doesn’t mean you are above crappy outcomes, particularly when you haven’t put a lot of thought into your actions in the first place.
Calling out someone’s actions is not the same as damning them to hell, it means making them aware of the consequences their actions have directly created. When those consequences have adverse effects, intentions back on day one, don’t mean squat.
In an era of free information, there is little excuse to not understand possible effects of your actions. Sure, surprising things happen all the time, but once the ball is set in motion, the way you push it will always affect its course.
You can recognize someone as having good intentions and still point out that their behaviour has had a negative impact. In many ways this is your moral obligation as to not call out problems will allow that person to continue that behaviour.
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